Talk Dirty to Me...

Some people really love to have their partners talk to them explicitly when engaging in intimate acts. Others are frustrated because they either can't talk dirty when turned on or are embarrassed and won't.

When a person is turned on, the part of the brain that is our primitive self (limbic), is engaged.  This part of our brain is also known to be where our emotions generate and where memories are stored.  Oftentimes, when this part of the brain is engaged, our more thinking/deductive reasoning part of the brain (cerebral cortex) is not at the forefront of our experience.

My deduction is that when the thinking part of the brain takes over, it's because we're thinking too much and, for whatever reason, not allowing ourselves to enjoy the moment.  Don't beat yourself up if you can't talk dirty.  Enjoy the other things you want to DO.

If you can't tell him or her exactly what you plan to do to him or her, that's a potentially good sign that you're turned on and your brain AND BODY is working just fine.  Have fun!

Copyright 2014 Heather Corwin