Sexy...

I'm guessing we all have very specific ideas about what sexy is and how that idea may have changed over some experience and years.  For example, the man of my dreams when I was 20 was tall, thin, blue eyed, black hair with a rogue-ish smile.  I'm sure I read too many romance novels.  In Tammy Bleck's article examining this very topic, she states, "it's about affection, appreciation, passion, tenderness, laughter and loyalty."

Personally, I think putting yourself on the line to come onto someone who you find sexy - even if he's your partner - can be daunting sometimes.  I am a mom of an active 3 year old, who is finishing her Ph.D. (thank GOD!), who teaches college, and who runs her own business.  I don't often feel sexy enough to want to come on to my husband...even when I find him sexy.  Sexy takes energy.

And then I recall a show I watched on sex and how most people only have sex for under 10 minutes.  And not just sex in the fornication, get-it-over-with way, I mean the let's get it on growling and orgasmic way.  Ten minutes is not that long and can be quite fun.  Sex doesn't have to be a marathon to be satisfying and, well, sexy.

What I've learned about myself is that sexy has to adapt to me as I adapt to my life. I have chosen a life partner I find sexy who I enjoy fooling around with on all sorts of levels.  He's smart, funny, thoughtful, kind, affectionate, and forgiving.  To me, that's HOT.

What do you find sexy and how has that changed for you at times?

Copyright 2014 Heather Corwin