Physical Domination...delicious or scary?

In traditional 1950's America, the man was the breadwinner and the woman was the homemaker.  Now, families are more commonly two income households and IF someone stays home, the label is "stay at home mom/dad" rather than someone whose primary responsibility is to keep a spotless house. 

So what does that all mean when we get into bed?

I think it's interesting that most people tend to fixate on being either submissive or dominant rather than seeing what the day brings.  In other words, there are days that I'm tired of directing or teaching or leading and being submissive is ideal.  Then there are days when I just want to tackle my husband and make him submit to me.  Thankfully, my lover (husband) is a playful man who is adaptable and really enjoys intimacy whatever the circumstance.  I'm also clearly referring to two consenting adults.

I just have to insert here that the label "lover" has always made me smile and sometimes giggle.  It seems very 1970's to me.  The phrase "making love" also often makes me roll my eyes because I find there are much more descriptive and fun euphemisms.  For example, I enjoy the phrase "jumping his bones."  It's more active and paints a fun picture. 

I guess what I'm getting at is limiting yourself as an animal seems ridiculous.  The dance of intimacy with lovers who have been together for years or who have yet to become lovers can be a fun and wild ride.  See how you feel at any given moment and give yourself permission to express yourself as you see fit.  Growl or sigh, it's all good.

Copyright 2014 Heather Corwin